Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: Understanding the Habits of Destruction

Based on the concepts discussed in Chapter 5 of Moneyology

Do you find yourself constantly self-sabotaging your success and wealth? Do you feel like there is a glass wall blocking you from achieving your goals? Unfortunately, it's not just one situation or a set of circumstances that takes us to this position; we pick up all sorts of beliefs we don't realize we are collecting, ultimately leading to our destruction. In this blog post, we will explore the habits of destruction that can hold us back from achieving our financial goals and what we can do to overcome them.

Habits of Destruction

Habits of destruction refer to the beliefs and behaviours that hold us back from achieving our desired success, especially regarding money and wealth. Unfortunately, these beliefs can become so ingrained in our unconscious that they act as a brake, stopping us from moving forward.

For example, some common habits of destruction include the belief that money is the root of all evil or that rich people are greedy and selfish. These beliefs can prevent us from taking the necessary steps to achieve our financial goals, as they create a negative association with wealth and success.

Other habits of destruction can include fear of failure, fear of success, and a lack of self-confidence. These habits can hold us back from taking risks or pursuing our goals with passion and determination.

The first step in breaking free from self-sabotage is awareness of our limiting beliefs and behaviours. Then, by identifying these habits of destruction, we can begin to challenge them and replace them with more positive and productive beliefs and behaviours.

 It's important to remember that habits of destruction are often formed in childhood and re-affirmed throughout adulthood. They can be deeply ingrained in our unconscious mind, making them difficult to change. However, with awareness and a commitment to change, we can break free from these habits and move towards our ideal life.

In summary, habits of destruction refer to the beliefs and behaviours that hold us back from achieving our financial goals. By becoming aware of and challenging these habits, we can break free from self-sabotage and move towards financial success.

Use Journaling

To help identify and manage our emotions around money, journaling can be a helpful tool. By swapping a morning routine of checking social media and emails with writing in a journal, we can tap into our unconscious mind and devise solutions to our problems. Even though we've been asleep for eight hours, our unconscious mind has still been whirling away in the background, identifying the activities that will take us closer to the opportunities and people that will lead us down the next steps on the road to building our wealth.

Journaling can also help us identify and challenge our limiting beliefs. For each belief we uncover, we can explore where we learned it, how we live by it now, and whether it is helpful or limiting. For example, Karen's belief that she was no good with numbers was formed after failing math in school. This belief repeatedly showed up in her life as she mismanaged her money. However, by reframing this belief, she could turn it into an asset. Instead of viewing herself as "no good with numbers," she could view herself as someone who learns through hands-on experience and has a talent for creating innovative solutions.

In conclusion, self-sabotage can result from limiting beliefs and habits that hold us back from achieving our financial goals. By becoming aware of these habits, journaling to tap into our unconscious mind, and challenging our limiting beliefs, we can break free from self-sabotage and move towards our ideal life. Remember, the first step towards change is awareness. Start by identifying your habits of destruction, and then take action to create new, more productive habits that will help you achieve your financial goals.